Dobermom needs foster help

[dobermom]

Kobie may have a new home.

I recieved an applicatiuon on Kobie early this week, and it has turned out WONDERFUL. The man is single, no 2 legged kids. He is 38 and in the process of a very "friendly" divorce. He is allowing his wife to take their current Doberman, and cant imagine living with out a Doberman.
He works full time, but will come home at lunch to let his dogs out, and if for reason he cant make it home, "grandma" will go over and let the dogs out.
He goes to the dog park daily, and sometimes twice on the weekend.

My problem is....Kobie and I are BOTH VERY attached to each other, how to I get it out of my head that I think Kobie is going to feel I dumped him?
I always have some attachment to my fosters, but once in a while, they get you! I think Kobie got me because he has come so far, he was so timid, and untrusting.

[Dax]

Don't let this man go without Kobie. Remember that this is the goal; the dream for him. A home of his own with a daddy that will love him.

You can't keep them all (well you can but we'd have to have an intervention)

[golden&hovawart]

By keeping him,lol!!!.
Now,being realistic about Kobie?!.The potential owner sounds great and seems to be a good man who has no kids,a yard,a gran-ma who loves dobies and a dog park,round the corner.How does kobie do in dog parks?.
It's sound really good but you love him.My answer would be follow yr head and decide which house would be best,for him.I know what I would do but I'm selfish!.

[dobermom]

I am about 95% sure he will go to this man, the problem is I cant get over how lost Kobie will be with out me for a while, I just feel guilty.

[RoughCollies]

Traci this is EXACTLY what my problem was with Kraemer. When Jake was working nights, Kraemer and I bonded like Krazy Glue. He really couldn't stay forever with us and ended up in an AMAZING home. But, as I watched the person who was transporting him for us take him to his car and Kraemer kept lunging and barking at me, I broke down. I was a total mess for days and I won't lie. Just typing this started me crying again. He was so confused. He wanted ME. I worried for days and probably drove the rescue mad asking for updates on how he was.

I don't regret finding him a great home, but I still miss him like crazy. It was by far one of the hardest things I've ever done. Even with Ramone, who I loved to death, it wasn't that hard. Ramone wasn't quite attached to me like Kraemer. Kraemer was MY dog. There was no doubt about it. It took him a while to come around, but he did and once he did, there was no doubt.

Traci, it's going to be hard. You will feel guilty. But, in time he will adjust. We got an update from Kraemers new home not too long ago, he's doing great. Just keep in touch with the new owner and in time you'll feel better. I just hope he doesn't bark and lunge to get back to you like Kraemer did to me. It was heartbreaking. I cried for days.

Some dogs just get to you like that. He'll adjust in time.

[fairlight]

You know Kobie is a special kind of dog and this man that has come to see Kobie is a special kind of person. Let's weight the pros and cons. This man would really love to have Kobie and you have fostered enough Dobermom to have that gut feeling as to who would be a good candidate for a forever home for your fosters. From your post it sounds like you have that gut feeling. If Kobie did go to a forever home would that open up a space for a new foster for you? Isn't this what it is all about? This is the reason why I could not foster. It would break my heart to see most of the dogs go.

[dobermom]

RC, I'm sure you remember Chopper, WOW talk about hard, that was AWFUL!
I'm sure Kobie will be in good hands, its just so hard. Like I said most are not nearly this hard.
I do know its whats right for Kobie, he deserves HIS home. I cant say anything negative about his new dad.
Everytime I look at him today, I nearly lose it.

[RoughCollies]

Yep, Traci. How could I forget Chopper? That was a special dog!

[alexis rose]

I had a Shar-pei foster many years ago named Dallas that I got really attached too. He went to the best home EVER. I made them visit him at my home several times and then at their home to make sure that he was going to be treated like a king. When the day came for them to pick him up for good I couldn't bring myself to answer the door. I sat on the couch hugging him and crying instead. I contacted them later on in the day and gave them a really lame excuse about not answering the door and told them to come the next day. When they came I just about didn't answer the door again. Dallas was whining and trying to get away from them when they were putting him in the car. I had to just close the door to my house and cry. I kept in touch with the new family and things went great and it wasn't long until there was another dog that needed a foster and I was so happy to help. Fostering is tough but then I think about how the lives are for the dogs that don't have a home and how important foster families are and it helps a ton. You are one of the best fosters mom I have ever read about and I love what you do and how you help those dogs. You are amazing!

[sandvand]

Oh, Dobermom I'm so scared for the day they take Mira away. My brothers girlfriend said the other day, "she looks at you like you are a goodess!" I nearly cried. I totally know what you mean about feeling like you are dumping them, and feeling guilty. But remember without you they wouldn't be here, and they bonded with you so they can bond with someone else, who can keep them forever. Remember what you told me, you explain to them that they are fosters and they are only here for a short time until they go to their forever home. I tell Mira this every once in a while, just in case she (or I) forget. hugs and doggy kisses your way